Well, folks, it finally happened. The day I’ve been dreading is here. I know that what I’m about to say will make 98.68% of you hate me, but I just can’t hold it in any longer. I hate the cold. I hate it. I can’t stand it. I need it like I need a hole in the head. And do you know what I discovered when I woke up this morning and took my dogs out? It was cold. In fact, it was freezing. It was a frigid 52 degrees, and I barely made it out alive. Okay. I know that in order for it to be categorically freezing outside, it has to be 32 degrees Fahrenheit. But I’m Puerto Rican. My people are tropical. And my capacity to withstand the cold is pitiful at best.
Fall arrived sometime between last night and this morning, and just like that, summer has faded away like dream. We can count on the seasons to change, and each one brings us something beautiful. But they also present their own unique challenges. Pollen and ragweed. Blazing sun. Leaves that need to be raked and then raked again. The kind of cold that gets inside of your bones. And what you wear in one season wouldn’t work in another. How you behave and what you do in those seasons wouldn’t work in another. Can’t wear a parka in the summer. Can’t go swimming in the winter.
Small groups go through seasons—ups and downs, ebbs and flows. And what works in one season might not work in another. Being present for your few means a lot of things, and one of those things means being mentally available. Thinking about your few. Considering where they are at this exact moment and understanding that it may look different from where they last week. New seasons in small group don’t have to be a scary thing, and they don’t have to be a bad thing. But they aren’t always necessarily a convenient thing because they require a little more thought and intentionality on our part as leaders.
Maybe a handful of your few don’t come anymore. Or maybe you suddenly have more than you know what to do with. Or maybe something’s going on within the group dynamic that has caused a shift to happen. What used to work with your few may not work anymore without some adjustment. And while that require a little more work on your part as you twist and turn and try to figure out what will work, it’s necessary. It’s good work. It’s the kind of work you signed up to do—being there, taking notice, taking chances, making changes. And your few are worth it.
So as the year is getting ready to wrap up, take a closer look at your few and ask yourself what kind of season they’re in as individuals and as a group. And if there is room for improvement, for adjustment, or simply for something new that may shake things up, then don’t be afraid to do just that!