As a small group leader, you have dreams of your students discussing life’s most pressing issues with you:
“My big brother locked me in a closet for an hour last week!”
“My little sister refuses to listen to anything other than Justin Bieber!”
Getting kids to talk may be one of the hardest things about being a small group leader. I take that back, getting your kids to talk about the things you WANT them to talk about may be one of the hardest things about being a small group leader.
Learning how to ask the right questions is key. Asking the wrong questions will get you answers like “Yes”, “No”, or “I don’t know.” Really awesome dialogue huh? A strong small group leader knows how to ask open-ended questions. These are questions that don’t necessarily have right or wrong answers. Open-ended questions will encourage the whole group to chime in on the discussion. Here are a few examples:
“How do you think David felt as he knelt down to pick up the stones that he was about to hurl at Goliath? What do you think you would have done if you were him?”
“Which plague do you think was the worst? Why? Can you imagine what it would be like to see frogs EVERYWHERE?!?”
“Let’s pretend you were the boy that had the 5 loaves and 2 fishes that fed the 5,000. Let’s retell the story from his perspective.” (That’s not a question, but you get the idea.)
Invite your kids into the story. Let them use their imaginations and let God bring these timeless stories to life. When the stories come to life, so will the truth and principles within them.
When you ask boring questions, you’ll get boring answers. Small group should be FAR from boring. The God that was with David when he fought Goliath, who sent the plagues to Egypt, and who fed 5,000 people with a small boy’s lunch is the same God that is inviting your small group kids to be a part of His story. Now THAT’S something worth talking about.
What are some ways YOU have gotten your kids involved in discussion or invited them to be part of the story?