The high five is one of the most universal things in our world today. No offense to the low five, but a high five is something nearly everyone knows. Little did Dusty Baker and Glenn Burke of the Los Angeles Dodgers know that when they smacked hands on October 2, 1977 they would create one of the most recognizable actions in the world today (according to Google.)
Creating a safe place for a child is not only important in a Lead Small culture for the child but also for that parent entrusting you with their child on a weekly basis. A high five takes very little effort to perform but the implications of a high five can be a game changer. High fives—or fist bumps, if you’re a bit more edgy—can say many things to a person. To a shy first time guest it can say I’m glad you’re here without any words at all. A high five from one kid to another can affirm a child’s need of acceptance and friendship. And what sweeter high five to give than congratulating a kid and parent after their child just accepted Christ!
Any small gesture can make a big impact in the life of a kid. Maybe it’s a secret handshake, an inside joke, or an awkward side hug. A parent recently shared with me what her daughter said about her experience at our church and in her small group.
“Mom, do you know why I like it here so much? It’s because they have really accepted me here—and in their hearts, too. I get high fives, hugs, and fist bumps like they have known me my whole life.”
So remember the value of small gestures of connection. They can break down walls to allow your few to feel safe and connected, which will lead them to have deeper, more meaningful faith based conversations in your group.
So… high five?
By Kegan DeWitt