Often times we make assumptions about the lives our few. In fact, it’s easy to assume their lives are very similar to our own. We want to believe their lives are safe, predictable, comfortable. But the truth is, we don’t always know what’s happening in their world when they leave our group.
Our perception changes when mom hints around about the uncertainty of their finances, the chaos dad’s addiction is wreaking on the kids, and the desperation she feels with every day she faces.
Our confidence in his safety is shaken when a foster parent sheds light on the trauma or abuse inflicted on one of your few. It can be tough to reconcile when someone who should have been trusted in that child’s life proved to be untrustworthy.
Or when “that dad” who is always late opens up to share the pain his kids still feel from the loss of their mother, the tailspin their life seems to be as he adjusts to a new normal as a single parent, and the battle of leading his kids to embrace a God that he doubts he can trust anymore.
These are moments of clarity. The realization of your group’s everyday lives showers over you, and your role as SGL seems to grow far beyond the function of sitting in a neat little circle doing crafts or activities with your few. It becomes something so much greater.
It is in these moments being present takes on new meaning. It moves beyond just showing up physically. It means your voice is consistently present to encourage, refine and build them up this week.
Your role as SGL means you get to be a critical voice in the lives of your few. And knowing what’s happening behind the scenes can prompt you to want to figure out how to turn the volume up a little more. You have a fighting chance of leading them to embrace an everyday faith in a Heavenly Father who knows how to lead them through their everyday junk.
Remember this: Monday is coming. Your few are moving out of your circle back into their day to day life, and what you say and do on Sunday matters.