Are Sunday mornings crazy at your house? I often hear from moms how hard it is to get out the door and get to church on time. I wonder if it is because Sunday morning has a different rhythm than every other day of the week. It’s not a work/school day, which typically has a normal routine (whatever “normal” is). It’s not Saturday that consists of sleeping in (for those of you that don’t have preschoolers), pancake breakfasts at 10am (noon for some of you), and Saturday morning cartoons (do those still exist??). Sunday is a little mix of the two. It’s still the weekend so we want to incorporate a little bit of Saturday’s goodness, but we have somewhere to be… church. So, if you’re like me, you sleep as long as you can, leave just enough time to make yourself (and your kids) look presentable, skip breakfast, and get to church just in time to get the last parking space in the back of the parking lot.
You show up to your small group with a cup of hot, black caffeine; frazzled and unprepared. But at least you showed up, right? While showing up consistently is a big part of your job, showing up mentally is just as important.
Showing up mentally is…
- -giving yourself enough time on a Sunday morning to not be rushed.
- -getting to church a little early (trust me…the doors will be unlocked) to take a few quiet moments to clear your mind.
- -forgetting your email, Facebook, and Twitter accounts for an hour or two. They’ll be there after church, I promise.
- -engaging with your students. Be interested in what’s going on in their lives. Their lives are important to them. Show them they are important to you.
Being a small group leader is more than just checking each activity off as you get them done. It’s about impacting the lives of those few kids in your group.
I have a friend with a 3rd grade little girl named Lily. Lily had a prayer request that she shared with her small group leader one week. She was getting braces and was nervous about it. The next Sunday at church, her small group leader told her he had thought about her during the week and prayed for as she got her braces. Lily could not believe that he 1. Remembered 2. Cared enough to actually think about and pray for her during the week. THAT is showing up mentally. If that small group leader had been sleep deprived and un-engaged that Sunday, he would have never remembered sweet Lily’s prayer request 7 days later.
So get a good night’s sleep. Resist hitting the snooze. And be mentally engaged with the small group of young people God has entrusted you with. Show them you care! Be present both physically and mentally!